To my women readers – ask any man and he will tell you this! He loves “DIY” much more than the actual thing!
And why shouldn’t he? It’s easy, it feels more natural, he can always have his perfect night, and at the end of it he doesn’t have to think if something was a question, sarcasm, or appreciation – “That was … fast!”
But let’s not get into the question of whether he could have held it any longer or not – what’s done is just done! We are here to discuss the deeper spiritual meaning of masturbation and its role in spiritual journey stages.
So without waiting any longer, let’s quickly jump onto it (not literally).
We Do it to Release Energy
Have you ever noticed that you have the highest cravings on a day when you are not too involved in anything? Pleasuring yourself, whether with a partner or DIY, is always done to release some form of leftover energy.
This energy could be physical or creative. If it is the physical leftover energy, then you will self-stimulate with the feeling of lust. While, if it’s the creative leftover energy, then you will do it as an expression of some love. Let’s go deeper into this distinction in the next section.
It is Either Lust or Love
Just like any sexual act, mindful masturbation can also be in either lust/passion or love. In both cases, our body’s energy centers work differently.
When you do it out of passion, your major energy center is around your root chakra (Muladhara). Most of your energy release will be through your genital area. It is due to this, that in passion, for men it becomes easy to ‘harden up’, and for women, easy to feel ‘openness’ in their pelvic region.
While, when your self-indulgence is out of love, then your energy center will be around the region of the heart chakra (Anahata). You will find it difficult to ‘harden’ or ‘open up’, or feel those exciting burns of passion. But it will feel much more peaceful. Any cause of feeling sad without reason will be eliminated. A significant blockage around your heart will feel to have opened up.
Masturbation is an Attempt to Feel God
Believe it or not, it is true! Whether you’re doing it with the feeling of passion or love, your ‘me-time’ is always an attempt to feel your innermost being – God.
If you look into it deeply you will find that during this time, there were moments when you were not thinking about anything else. There were very brief moments when you felt greater than your own self. We indulge in intimacy because it gives us those moments of very deep connection with the innermost being. It helps us understand how to feel emotions fully.
But, this insight also means one more thing. At any moment, the more disconnected you are from your innermost being, the more you will have the cravings for pleasure. It is then no doubt that people who feel deeply sad, lonely, and disconnected, develop addiction to acts of intimacy.
Any Duality Will Disturb You
People who have passed through emotional healing stages or achieved some self-awareness speak about this! Any act of intimacy is a painful experience to have.
In truth, it becomes painful every time a ‘duality’ arises within you. By duality, I mean two opposing thoughts/feelings at the same time. Be it a “DIY” act or with a partner, it needs to be either in pure passion or pure love.
It does not matter what you feel in other moments, but during the actual act, it needs to be one hundred percent of one thing – lust or love. So for spiritual seekers, to avoid the intimacy pain, they either need to be fully lost within their body (to feel passion); or be mindfully aware and self-connected (to feel love). And then, even masturbating spiritually will not disturb their energy system.
However, there is one alternative aspect to it. In lust, the energy flow is downwards – through all the seven chakras in our body to our root chakra. While, in love, it flows in an upward direction – from root to heart to crown chakra. It is due to this, that lust temporarily creates certain blocks in energy flow in other chakras, resulting in temporary negative emotional energy. While love opens up and balances energy flow throughout all chakras, leading to temporary peace and joy.
Self-Pleasure is Still Energy Sharing
Many spiritual seekers prefer self-indulgence over the actual act, to avoid the energy connection and energy sharing with the other person.
However, spiritual masturbation is still a form of energy sharing. If you use a video, you will still feel the energy imprints of actors within you. And if you use your imagination, you will still be thinking about someone – whose energy system will mingle with yours during the act.
All in All
As long as you are enjoying yourselves within your own safe space and time, you should, you really should!
But having a deeper awareness of spiritual masturbation will help you build better self-connection, self-love, and an understanding of what are feelings within you.
So whatever we do, let’s be more mindfully aware of every aspect of it!